Wilderness Lessons:
The wilderness is not just a barren place—it’s a refining place. Israel spent 40 years there, not because God had abandoned them, but because He was shaping their mindset before leading them into promise. Luke 11:35 warns us: “See to it, then, that the light within you is not darkness.” Sometimes what we think is clarity is actually comfort that keeps us from moving forward.

Many of us camp in the wilderness. We settle at “oases”—temporary places of relief—mistaking them for the destination. Distractions like relationships, money, or even achievements can look like “light,” but they blur our true vision. The danger is not always in the dark valleys, but in the false light that convinces us we’ve arrived when we’ve only paused.

If you realize you’ve mistaken temporary relief for lasting purpose, shift your perspective. Ask:

Is this thing I’m holding onto sharpening or blurring my vision?

Have I made a resting place my permanent address?

Am I pursuing alignment with God, or settling for comfort?

Repentance here looks like letting go of the false light and re-centering your vision on the true treasure—your God-given purpose.

Journal: What oases in my life am I tempted to settle in?

Pray: Ask God to expose any “light that is still darkness” in your journey.

Take one step (no matter how small) toward the bigger purpose God is calling you to. That might be reaching out for mentorship, starting that project, or revisiting a dream you buried.

✨ Remember: The wilderness is a passage, not a home. Don’t camp where you were only meant to pass through.

There’s always that one moment you let go off your guard

That moment you decide enough is enough

That moment you get tired of inhaling bad energy

That moment you lose control

That moment you decide you have regressed and surpressed so much that even your body calls for your attention through different emotions.

That moment when there’s nothing left to be broken

That moment you feel alone even though you are sorounded by so many people

That moment of uncontrollable tears of defeat

That moment you feel all the additions and multiplications you have been doing to grow your life leads to massive subtraction in the end

That moment when all hope is gone

That moment you feel like you have used up all your strength

That moment you feel life has no meaning

That moment you want to just settle in and with whatever life gives you

That moment when you try so hard to reach out but no one understands your heart

That moment you cry your heart out trying not to give up but everything around you shows you it’s time to give up

That moment when that defeating voice let’s you believe you not good enough

That moment that feels like it’s all up and there’s was nowhere the road was leading to.

That moment when you need someone to listen, someone to assure you, someone’s shoulder, when all you want to hear is am with you ,am listening,i understand

That moment that deprives you of your inner peace

That moment is the moment to see how far you have come

That moment is the hope in you telling you to take one more step

That moment brings you courage that you need to believe in you again.

That moment, is there to remind you of your breath,of your existence,of your reason for being

That moment is hard and painful to fathom,but that moment is the change of transformation calling you from inside

That moment is when the defeating voice speaks, the voice of your gifts is louder at that moment too.

Believe in the expression of what you are feeling as an indication of the old pasing away and welcome the new that’s coming

That moment is of hope as much as all hope is gone there’s hope that you feeling there’s no hope and now you can let that pass away and start hoping in the new hope that you are still standing .

That moment is your intuition, your spirit, your soul, your heart trying to awaken you to who you are. Reminding you, you have a bigger purpose to serve and a beautiful life to live.

That moment is the moment of God wanting you to reconnect with Him to re-invent you,to rebuild you,to reconstruct,to revive you,to renew you mind.

That moment is the moment of new beginning and new beliefs.

That moment is what you desired, only that all that was foreign had to leave,pass away either as pain ,hurt, failure, regrets, rejection that phase had to end. To begin a new journey of positiveness, possibilities, abundance, bliss,grace, favour

That moment is dark diminishing in the light that penetrates and illuminates so fast.

That moment is light.

That moment is change

That moment is your potential

That moment is your purpose

That moment is your calling

That moment is life

That moment is a resource

I remember that one moment but now that one moment is a reminder of my resilience, strength and dependency on God. Its my testimony, my story of conviction and out of comfort zone.

John 10:10

Isaiah 57:15

Romans 12:1-4

Jeremiah 29:11

Psalms 27:13

I know how it feels

Have you ever been passionate about something or someone

Well let me tell you what am passionate about
Listening and been part of someone history
I have learnt compassion because God has shown me compassion

I will smile to cheer you up, Because I have received a stern face while all I longed for was a smile

I will hold my tears to cry with you because I understand the pain of crying alone and wishing for someone to wipe my tears or be there

I will allow you to lean on my shoulders or even sleep on them not because am well but because I understand how to need shoulders or even a whole body to lean on and not find one.

I will cover your nakedness and be there till you access your peace again, Because I know how shame feels and how its deep wounds pierce the heart and the time it takes to heal.

I will be patient ,tolerant ,forgiving, as you heal because I understand how our childhood traumas have conformed us to patterns and behaviors that we desire to outgrow and overcome but we always receive timelines and fingers pointing at our failures, mistakes, inadequacy and judgment instead of seeing, appreciating and recognizing our efforts, strengths and gifts,

I will encourage and uplift your soul not because am good at it but because I have been at the bottom, in the pit and in the deep sea
I will give all my time and energy not because it’s my love language but because there days all I needed was undivided attention, and support.

I will listen to understand as long as it takes time and energy not because I have all the time and energy but because I have been there wanting intentional commitment to no avail
I will sacrifice not because I want to be loved back but because I have been in those shoes where all I desired was a little sacrifice.

I will be merciful and non-judgmental not because you deserve it but because I have been judged, and I know the pain
I will appreciate you because I know how wonderful and enlightening it is when someone sees you.

What am trying to say is I would want to be remembered as someone who never let a friend face their battle alone.

I have been in the wilderness I know the pain of been unheard, unseen, misunderstood, rejected, devalued but it didn’t kill me instead it brought pain that awakened my heart, my soul, spirit into discovering and pursuing my Maker, The Lord God, The Author of my life

In Him I have accessed peace that surpasses the understanding of men,
I have known joy and unconditional love
I have received grace and strength,
And my freedom, discovering my purpose and assignment.

Am yet to become but the journey am now in is enriching, inspiring and filled with more reasons to be grateful

I would be fulfilled in helping you discover God, seeking the Kingdom and it’s righteousness, establish inner peace and maintaining it.

I know God is calling you to be honest with yourself and be authentic, thus means acknowledging behaviours and habits that act as a hindrance to your progress.
The decision to chose progress or regress is entirely on you. The seed you chose to water will keep on growing and the end results will show externally with time.
The fruits will either be peace, love, joy abundance , fulfilment and contentment or unfulfilled life that’s keeps on craving, chasing wanting and needing what it’s not sure of. The seed is either life giving or life taking.
It slowly and surely gives you life as you water it and enhances your progress or it regresses your life away as you water it, it slowly and surely leaves you void and empty.
Godward is stormy and painful and the end results are filled with joy and beauty.
There’s grace to overcome every pain and withstand the healing process and all the challenges, obedience and courage comes flowing to bring liberty and freedom. There’s flexibility.
On the other hand choosing reluctance and familiarity makes you more comfortable and pacifys you to believe in your Limiting beliefs, it’s smooth as you always have a way out of escaping and avoiding the pain and the storm that’s yielded to take you to the other side.
As you keep watering it with false intention of one day becoming better you grow something that its fruits are bitter, resentful, settling and you keep holding on to a false self and silently crave freedom and fulfilment, you become more rebellious not to other people but to the version of you that you now discard because you expected another version of you that you weren’t willing to uphold the journey and overcome. You are angry with the results of your outcome of the seed you choose to water consciously or unconsciously. The consequences are an opposite of what you wanted. You want to believe this person is a stranger and the real you is better so you project the stranger you to other people knowing or unknowingly to relieve the pressure within you.
And life becomes a surviving journey instead of a thriving journey.
This life you desire to thrive and manifest starts with you connecting with God. He gives life, guidance, teachings and reveals what’s hidden.
Romans 12:1-2
Jeremiah 29:11
John 10: 10
Galatians 2:17-21
John 15: 1-8
1peter 4:19
It’s by reconnecting inwardly and stilling ourselves to hear Him who lives inside of us to reform us, redeem us,heal us,renew us,refine us and make us new. He puts all that isn’t us to death, all that gratifys only the flesh and He resurrects who we are at our core, who we were formed to be that gratifys the Spirit.

Yes I hit rock bottom,
Yes I became desperate
Yes I lost truck of time
Yes I saw it all fade away
Yes, I still prayed
Yes, I stumbled off and wandered
Yes, I saw what was strays of me
Yes I became lost
Yes, I fell down so hard
Yes, I saw hate and love in the eyes of my once admirers
Yes, I became a glimpse of who I used to be
Yes, I saw their betrayal
Yes, I saw them leave, let go
Yes, I saw them at a distance watching and waiting
Yes, the cup was heavy and painful
Yes, I thought it was all over
Yes, Every breath came with tears
Yes, I was misunderstood,
Yes, I gave too much for too little
Yes, I thought I was been a good girl
Yes, I thought it was empathy and expressing love
Yes, I expected too much
Yes, I hurt myself more trying to appease
Yes, I reached my limit

But it was then that

I remembered the woman God created
I remembered I could re-emerge
The One who makes the season Lives in me,
Yes, my brokenness, crushed spirit draws Him closer
I am not alone,have never been and will never be, He forsakes not,
Now,
I have been rescued and healed
I know compassion and unconditional love now
I want you to know there’s a way out
Don’t stay for the sake, don’t settle don’t give up on yourself
Allow yourself to forgive,let go and feel gratitude.
Step by step…..as in psalms 27

Sometimes life will surprise you, it will make you feel elated at one moment and make you feel like you will never rise up again the next moment. You will be thriving and surviving at the same time. You will laugh and cry almost at the same time. You will lift yourself up and also discourage yourself.
The good thing is realising that all those are awakenings that lighten up your heart to understand that you are human,
The best thing is God sees our humanity. Je calls on us to lean on Him, to allow Him search and examine us.
It’s our humanity that makes us see ourselves deeply and immensely.
We desire to grow for different reasons based on our values, there are those who desire to be successful others, desire to live fulfilled lives, they’re are those who will choose peace over ambitious desires.
The best thing is to align ourselves according to our purpose and values.

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No, the universe isn’t ruthless because God is the Universe and He has plans to prosper us and not harm us, He delights in fulfilling our heart desires but at times it’s what our hearts have harboured in the longest while that blocks or limits us.
Our subconscious have the power to manifest what we have been conditioned to since childhood consciously or unconsciously.
Mostly our traumas are negative due to the dysfunctional families we grew up in, beliefs we have carried with us, fed to us by religion, society and education.
I mean all this results up in us making decisions that are cultural based, fear based,anger based and timelined. We live by surviving and coping, escaping and avoiding our own emotions, feelings and thoughts until life convicts us to something that awakens us to want to do better,
These experiences are always heavy on us resulting in confusion, comparisons, addictions, being stuck, questioning our existence, stagnation, desparation, greediness, being needy, giving up on life, aggression, busyness, unsettled, unfulfilled, unsatisfied, a mindset always chasing for power or money, to be noticed or recognised in the hope of finding peace, a heart crying for help, and a soul in need of a Saviour. We are always after the next thing timelined by culture.
We want a way out externally,
But The way out is internally discovering who we are at our core, why we are here and what we truly desire, And that is finding our Maker, been in His presence and allowing Him remould us, restructure us,purify us, revive us.
So that we can become spiritually awakened
Mentally renewed and transformed
Emotionally focused
Physically enabled.
The healthy me journal is a well equipped tool to guide you in this transformational journey.
Enabling you observe your progress and accompanying you to meet yourself.
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It would be great to let your your life be guided by the word of God.
It would be profound to know how the word of God can guide and lead you.
It would be more meaningful to apply the knowledge and wisdom of the word of God in your life.
It would be fulfilling to be aligned with the word of God
It would be strengthening and impacting to be transformed by the word of God.
It would be life giving and soul nourishing to be renewed by the word of God.
It would align and position you to pursue your purpose, align you to your destiny and the plans God has to prosper you.
You would know and understand who you are, who you are becoming and the journey you taking.
You would be strong to withstand the challenges and painful moments on the way because they would be a light that guides you, reassures you and shines in you.
You would understand and speak life into your life and others around you because out of the abundance of heart the mouth speaketh.
You would be unstoppable believing and trusting the Orchestrator of your life.
But for you to attune yourself to these truths and light, you have to give control to the One who holds the power and key to renew and transform you.
You have to be willing to and accepting to allow Him search your heart (subconscious mind) and reveal to you what the world (society, religion, education family backgrounds,) has conformed you to.
You will need grace and unconditional love to accept what you discover and to let go of all the conformation ( limiting beliefs, negative thoughts, resentment,shame, guilty, unworthiness, fear,anger ) and all the pain and emotions that you have buried, surpressed and regressed inside.
The searching of your heart takes time to discover and requires courage and willingness to heal.
It’s a step by step process, which requires faith, consistency, healthy habits and love.
Journaling is one tool that can make your journey empowering as it helps you focus with clarity and see your progress. This in return helps awaken your consciousness more, build and increase your desire and faith to keep unlearning, learning and relearning to lean on the word of God.

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The longing you feel inside to be validated,to be seen, heard, loved, approved is your inner child reaching out to you with trust that you can be a safe place, you can be emotional available,you can provide,you can protect,you can hear and see yourself internally which is the greatest gift. It’s your intuition, your spirit confirming to you that you can validate yourself,you can approve yourself. The inner child trust you, trust yourself. It may seem impossible but the next time you have this longing tell yourself that you trust yourself to be a safe space and you are emotional available for your inner child to feel safe. The feeling may not vanish in a moment but the subconscious mind will have a positive impact and response rather than the automatic reaction of wanting to be externally approved and validated. As you keep practicing you become more aware of your feelings and thoughts and how to respond to them……

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